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Tools, reflections, and therapeutic perspectives

Here you’ll find articles that explore the patterns, relationships, and inner landscapes that shape us. These pieces are grounded in therapeutic insight and written to support reflection, understanding, and gentle self-awareness.

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Understanding the Window of Tolerance

Our nervous system has a natural range where we feel steady, present, and able to cope. When life pushes us outside this “window,” we might find ourselves shutting down, feeling overwhelmed, or reacting in ways that don’t feel like us. This blog explores how to recognise your window of tolerance, and gently widen it over time.

Relationships / Emotional Wellbeing / Self-Development

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The Four Horsemen of conflict

Communication shapes the emotional climate of our relationships. The Gottman Method identifies four behaviours, criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling, that can slowly erode trust and closeness. In this blog, we explore what they look like in everyday life and how couples can shift toward healthier patterns.

Attachment Theory

Attachment shapes the way we love, connect, and feel safe in the world. Formed in our earliest relationships, these patterns quietly influence how we cope with conflict, seek closeness, express needs, and navigate intimacy as adults. While attachment isn’t about blame or dysfunction, it offers a powerful lens for understanding why certain relational dynamics feel familiar or activating. In this article, we explore the foundations of attachment theory, what the four styles look like in everyday life, and how awareness can support healing, secure connection, and more compassionate relationships, both with others and with ourselves.

Why Couples Fight About “Small Things”

Attachment shapes the way we love, connect, and feel safe in the world. Formed in our earliest relationships, these patterns quietly influence how we cope with conflict, seek closeness, express needs, and navigate intimacy as adults. While attachment isn’t about blame or dysfunction, it offers a powerful lens for understanding why certain relational dynamics feel familiar or activating. In this article, we explore the foundations of attachment theory, what the four styles look like in everyday life, and how awareness can support healing, secure connection, and more compassionate relationships, both with others and with ourselves.

Thoughtful writing for curious minds

Each blog explores the themes that shape our inner worlds, relationships, boundaries, healing, attachment, and the tender spaces within us. You’re welcome to wander through at your own pace and return whenever something resonates.